Couples Therapy

It was so easy in the beginning.

It was light and full of laughter… fun and flirty.

You looked forward to seeing each other. There was nobody either of you would rather see.

You felt like you were on the same team – that it was you two against the world.

Adventure always seemed possible.

But the passion has gone stale.

You feel like you’re walking on eggshells, always bracing for conflict. You’re probably already aware of some of your patterns and how it escalates.

So… maybe you avoid each other – you know… so you don’t ignite the powder keg.

Or you emotionally withdraw, opting for transactional interactions, like you’re in a business arrangement instead of a relationship.

Two ships, passing in the night…

Your needs are going unmet. You feel unappreciated, unseen, and unacknowledged.

There are so many things you wish you could share with them. It would be nice to check in at the end of the day, but it no longer feels emotionally safe. You fear judgment, criticism, or indifference.

Everything they do seems annoying, even the stuff you used to find charming or quirky. And it’s affected your intimacy. It seems like you barely touch anymore. It’s easy to forget those parts of you that need that.

At this point, you don’t know if you’ll ever get what you need.

Here’s the reality…

You’ve both learned many lessons about the nature of relationships from childhood and past traumas. You learned so much, and you were completely unaware of it.

Your models of love, connection, and intimacy learned from the past are now limiting your ability to see the potential of your relationship. You’re each bringing what you’ve learned into your partnership, and you both think you’re in the right. Neither of you wants to give up ground.

Tension and conflict inevitably result, and you feel unappreciated, unloved, and unseen.

Your lives and stories are colliding…

Let’s unpack how by making sure you’re both heard and valued.

I will listen empathetically to both of your stories, teaching you how to get out of the way of past unconscious programming so you can both feel seen. I’ll be your translator so your partner can hear your needs and know how to meet them.

We’ll listen to your immediate needs and your long-unmet needs. You likely already have a sense of it, but you’re probably not aware of all the ways that your early lessons about relationships shape your current partnership.

We’ll make these connections so you’ll both feel loved and honored – so you can be each other’s medicine.

No more waiting to see if things get better…

There’s too much at stake.

Let me help you break the destructive patterns in your relationship so you can see, understand, and be compassionate with each other again.

You can have a satisfying partnership full of passion and mutual support.

Ready to start the next phase of your relationship? Call now for your free consultation: (510) 995-6358.